Another Up 'n Attem Monday

Got up before 7 this morning, showered, dressed, weighed and on the computer.  Nothing in my stomach yet.  I hate to drink coffe right after I brush my teeth.  I like to enjoy the clean teeth feeling for a little while at least.
It snowed a little last night, but not enough to do any damage.  The plow just went by dropping sand, but I don't really see the need for it.  Luckily the people to the south of me got the snow and not I.
Well, last night we were down at the other end of the lake at my cousin's house for dinner.  They commented on how little I eat now, and my cousin said what'd you do have gastric by-pass surgery?  Well, these are the people whose daughter had the surgery three years ago, and all they did was talk about her, how she couldn't do it on her own and took the easy way out.  They downgraded her as often as possible.  I really didn't want them to know, but I don't lie so I just said yes.  Sandy said I figured as much (with disgust).  I told them it wasn't an easy decision and definitly not the easy way out.  Bob said that the surgery of choice at Munson (where he volunteers) is the band.  I told him the reason I didn't choose that for me and he just did the hurumppphhh sound.  So I guess that's over now.  I just didn't want the whole community up here knowing, but I'm not sure why not.  I'll just be an ambassador for this surgery.
QOTD:  Are there people that you didn't want to tell about this surgery because you were afraid they'd down talk you?  I sure was, and now that it's over, I'll just live with it as best as I can.  I'm happy with my decision, and that's all that should matter.  Should I also mention that Sandy is morbidly obese and has v-fib problems?  She could probably benefit from this surgery too...but I won't go there...
Have a great day all.
Jani

GO GO GO Jani...This is your decision and none of their dog gone business. I have also heard others state it is the easy way out.  I definitely had about four months that I was miserable unable to hold things down and teaching myself to consume properly.  I almost wondered why I had done this to myself but now I believe it was all worth it..  I was fortunate that my family wanted me to have this surgery so I have not had problems from anyone.  I also tell people when they make statments about my weight that I had some assistance.  I am proud and I see you are too.........Good gal!!!!!We got a bit of snow here too a dusting but in these parts we are used to it.......Have a great day.

Hi Jan,
We must have ESP or something. Like you said some will answer yours and some will answer mine, no problem...
QOTD-I don't tell most people unless they ask. I'm selective 'caus some will say that it is "the easy way out." But, most will give an intonation of dissapointment like there is an easy pill or easy diet fix.
Whatever-I'm the one that lives with it and I'm happy for my choice..
Deb

We don't have much snow yet, but school was cancelled today in anticipation of up to 5 inches.  Most kids ride the bus out here, so when there's bad weather they tend to be cautious.

QOTD:  I am just 2 weeks out from my surgery, but only last week did my husband tell his parents that I had the surgery.  We knew they would be very judgmental and disapproving.  I am not embarrassed to have had this surgery, so I will tell people when they question, but I am not going to wear a label on my shirt, either.  Need-to-know basis kind of thing! 

I'm definitely with you Linda on the need to know basis.  I can't stand people that are so judgemental about things.  I don't have a problem telling most people, but certain people I did not want to know this.  Oh well, it's done now. 
I'm not going to wear a sign saying I had wls, but I won't deny it either.  I'm very happy for the decision I made and hopefully will be for the rest of my life!
Jan

Dont' worry about them Jani.  You did what was right for you and odds are they look down at you because they themselves don't have the guts to do what's needed.  I have learned that there is always someone in your life that knows all, knows better, can do it better, is the best at everything , is "cutting edge".  Those are the people that need the attention.  Most others don't need nor want the attention and just want a better life for themselves.  You made the right decision for you just as the rest of us made the right decision for ourselves and that's all that matters.  Hold your head high and just be willing to answer any questions people might have.  Like you said, be an ambassador.

 

I guess in answer to the QOTD: Yes there were people I didn't want to tell and in fact didn't.  But part of it was I just didn't want to have to explain myself to them.  It's not really any of their business.  My husband's family is like that.  They would all have alot to say and advice and what they would do but it's not up to them.  It was a choice made between my husband and myself.  No matter what way I went telling them before or after the surgery they would have been unhappy so I guess in that instance I took the easy way out you could say and I didn't say anything to most of them.  They weren't happy when they found out afterwards that I had had surgery and they weren't told but I had enough to concentrate on without having to explain my choices over and over and over to them. 

 

I hear ya Mandy, and wholeheartedly agree with you.  I'm in no way ashamed of the choice I made and will be glad to answer any and all questions (unless they get too personal!) 
You're really doing great with your weightloss.  Doesn't it feel wonderful?

It does feel wonderful!  We had pictures taken yesterday and I can't wait to get them back.  I work a shirt I would have NEVER worn before and it felt awesome!  I can't wait until Summer.  I bet the heat will be a heck of alot easier and I will be a much happier camper!

The boys woke me up at 8 this morning so I am glad that I did get to sleep in a little bit today. Especially since I was up a couple of times last night. We had a busy weekend. I worked on Saturday morning and then we took the boys to the mall and Big Guy got his haircut for the first time. It is really cute and we are pleased with it. Took us long enough to get permission to do it.

Today we are just hanging ou****ching the snow. I was suppose to take one of the cats into the vet for a check up but they called to cancel us since they were going to be closing early today. So not going anywhere today.

QOTD: Well being 5 years out now I do not have to tell people unless they have not seen me in a long time and wonder about things. But usually the first 2 years I think is when people ask questions since they see such a rapid change in you. I do think people tend to have an opinion on it and base their opinion on what they have seen through other people. I have maintained a weight loss of at least 127 pounds, so I am happy with those results and even if I am not a skinny minnie I have done really well. So I have learned to not to let it get to me. I do hope in time you can find the peace you need as well.

Morning All,

We just had a light dusting of snow this morning.  We are suppose to get up to 6 inches as of about 6 a.m. this morning.  It could go under us, and I would not care today.  My son had bad dreams all night last night.  OH MY.  Mom got about 3 hours of sleep. 

Jani,  I think my original surgeon Dr. Kam is at Munson now.  I loved him.  He was at Barix, when he did my surgery, and left within 6 months after that.  Since then they have tossed me from dr to dr, so I have not been that pleased with my aftercare.  I have thought about scheduling an appt to see him, if he is in my network.  Not much difference to drive to Ypsilanti or Traverse City from where I am at. 

QOTD: My parents were some of the last ones told, as with my sister too.  They just don't understand that we don't want to have the medical complications that they do.  They blame all my medical problems since my surgery on my surgery, not from the carb heavy fried food diet that we were brought up on, and belonging to members of the clean plate or you do don't leave the table club. 

Hope everyone has a wonderful day.

Pam